<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[author results for Tobia, Jacob,]]></title><description><![CDATA[author results for Tobia, Jacob,]]></description><link>https://gateway.bibliocommons.com/v2/libraries/pima/rss/search?query=Tobia%2C%20Jacob%2C&amp;searchType=author&amp;origin=core-catalog-explore&amp;view=grouped</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Sat, 18 Apr 2026 22:15:51 GMT</lastBuildDate><item><title><![CDATA[Sissy]]></title><description><![CDATA["A heart-wrenching, eye-opening, and giggle-inducing memoir about what it's like to grow up not sure if you're (a) a boy, (b) a girl, (c) something in between, or (d) all of the above. From the moment a doctor in Raleigh, North Carolina, put "male" on Jacob Tobia's birth certificate, everything went wrong. Alongside "male" came many other, far less neutral words: words that carried expectations about who Jacob was and who Jacob should be, words like "masculine" and "aggressive" and "cargo shorts" and "SPORTS!" Naturally sensitive, playful, creative, and glitter-obsessed, as a child Jacob was given the label "sissy." In the two decades that followed, "sissy" joined forces with "gay," "trans," "nonbinary," and "too-queer-to-function" to become a source of pride and, today, a rallying cry for a much-needed gender revolution. Through revisiting their childhood and calling out the stereotypes that each of us have faced, Jacob invites us to rethink what we know about gender and offers a bold blueprint for a healed world--one free from gender-based trauma and bursting with trans-inclusive feminism. From Jacob's Methodist childhood and the hallowed halls of Duke University to the portrait-laden parlors of the White House, Sissy takes you on a gender odyssey you won't soon forget. Writing with the fierce honesty, wildly irreverent humor, and wrenching vulnerability that have made them a media sensation, Jacob shatters the long-held notion that people are easily sortable into "men" and "women." Sissy guarantees that you'll never think about gender--both other people's and your own--the same way again." -- Provided by publisher]]></description><link>https://pima.bibliocommons.com/v2/record/S91C1953242</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://pima.bibliocommons.com/v2/record/S91C1953242</guid><category><![CDATA[BK]]></category><category><![CDATA[eng]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[Tobia, Jacob]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 31 Jan 2019 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate><comments>https://pima.bibliocommons.com/item/comment/1953242091</comments><format>BK</format><subtitle>A Coming-of-gender Story</subtitle><language>eng</language><image_url>https://contentcafe2.btol.com/ContentCafe/Jacket.aspx?&amp;userID=EBSCO9&amp;password=TUSCONPL&amp;Value=9780735218826&amp;content=M&amp;Return=1&amp;Type=M</image_url></item><item><title><![CDATA[Sissy]]></title><description><![CDATA[<b>THE NATIONAL BESTSELLER<br>"Transformative ... If Tobia aspires to the ranks of comic memoirists like David Sedaris and Mindy Kaling, <i>Sissy</i> succeeds." —<i>The New York Times Book Review</i><br>A heart-wrenching, eye-opening, and giggle-inducing memoir about what it's like to grow up not sure if you're (a) a boy, (b) a girl, (c) something in between, or (d) all of the above.<br>"A beautiful book . . . honest and funny."—Trevor Noah, <i>The Daily Show</i><br>"<i>Sensational</i>."—Tyler Oakley<br>"Jacob Tobia is a force." —<i>Good Morning America</i><br>"A trans Nora Ephron . . . both honest and didactic." —<i>OUT Magazine</i><br>"A rallying cry for anyone who's ever felt like they don't belong." —<i>Woman's Day</i></b><br>As a young child in North Carolina, Jacob Tobia wasn't the wrong gender, they just had too much of the stuff. Barbies? Yes. Playing with bugs? Absolutely. Getting muddy? Please. Princess dresses? You betcha. Jacob wanted it all, but because they were "a boy," they were told they could only have the masculine half. Acting feminine labelled them "a sissy" and brought social isolation. <br>It took Jacob years to discover that being "a sissy" isn't something to be ashamed of. It's a source of pride. Following Jacob through bullying and beauty contests, from Duke University to the United Nations to the podiums of the Methodist church—not to mention the parlors of the White House—this unforgettable memoir contains multitudes. A deeply personal story of trauma and healing, a powerful reflection on gender and self-acceptance, and a hilarious guidebook for wearing tacky clip-on earrings in today's world, <i>Sissy </i>guarantees you'll never think about gender—both other people's and your own—the same way again.]]></description><link>https://pima.bibliocommons.com/v2/record/S980C4197514</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://pima.bibliocommons.com/v2/record/S980C4197514</guid><category><![CDATA[EAUDIOBOOK]]></category><category><![CDATA[eng]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[Tobia, Jacob]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 31 Jan 2019 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate><comments>https://pima.bibliocommons.com/item/comment/4197514980</comments><format>EAUDIOBOOK</format><subtitle>A Coming-of-Gender Story</subtitle><language>eng</language><image_url>https://contentcafe2.btol.com/ContentCafe/Jacket.aspx?&amp;userID=EBSCO9&amp;password=TUSCONPL&amp;Value=9781984840400&amp;content=M&amp;Return=1&amp;Type=M</image_url></item><item><title><![CDATA[Before They Were Men]]></title><description><![CDATA["The conversation about masculinity, patriarchy, and misogyny has never been so prominent or heated. Alarmed by a new generation of angry, broken young men, genderqueer writer Jacob Tobia set out to explore what was going on and came to a shocking conclusion: emotionally and spiritually-speaking, men and boys may be the ones suffering the most under the gender binary right now. Jacob should know. For their gender-defying adolescent heart, the nonconsensual process of being "made a man" was crushing. After spending a lifetime fleeing manhood and masculinity, Jacob dares to ask the question: what happens if we stop understanding men as categorical beneficiaries of patriarchal institutions and start understanding them for what they are - co-survivors of patriarchy itself? In a series of personal and devastating essays, Before They Were Men argues that we must rewire our entire framework of feminism. A much-needed nonbinary intervention into a two-sided discourse gone stale, Jacob boldly posits compassion and empathy as the paradigm-shifting forces that will lead men - and us all - to a brighter future. Urgent, surprising, and at times, hilarious, they cover topics like: The unspoken body image issues and dysmorphia confronting men and boys. The difficulty of challenging a world that glorifies war, aggression, and the violence of men. The case for rethinking, and ultimately retiring, counterproductive terms like "Toxic Masculinity" and "Male Privilege.""-- Provided by publisher.]]></description><link>https://pima.bibliocommons.com/v2/record/S91C2196871</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://pima.bibliocommons.com/v2/record/S91C2196871</guid><category><![CDATA[BK]]></category><category><![CDATA[eng]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[Tobia, Jacob]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 31 Jan 2025 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate><comments>https://pima.bibliocommons.com/item/comment/2196871091</comments><format>BK</format><subtitle>Essays on Manhood, Compassion, and What Went Wrong</subtitle><language>eng</language><image_url>https://contentcafe2.btol.com/ContentCafe/Jacket.aspx?&amp;userID=EBSCO9&amp;password=TUSCONPL&amp;Value=9780593797945&amp;content=M&amp;Return=1&amp;Type=M</image_url></item></channel></rss>